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 The threesome is a fantasy so many people would love to partake in. Whether it is two women and a man (ffm threesome), two men and a woman (mmf threesome), or three same sex partners (gay or lesbian threesome), the threesome can be fun for all. Some couples can successfully add a third person to their sexual adventures, while others cannot.
The most important aspect of the threesome is the discussion between the original couple and the third person that must come before the final decision is made. Certainly, not everyone is capable of sharing their partner with another or watching their partner in action with someone else. Talking honestly about the potential activities is critical in having a successful threesome.
Ideally, the discussion about the threesome would take place before the act has moved into the bedroom. Talking openly in a neutral setting will allow everyone to think rationally and make the decision not to continue if the mood becomes uncomfortable. While threesomes can and do happen on a whim if the mood and company are right, most take a certain level of planning. Below are a few topics your discussion should include.
The Jealousy Factor
To have a successful threesome, all parties involved must be willing to not become jealous. This can prove to be difficult, as the third person may be more well endowed, thinner, or downright better looking than you. Your partner may react differently to the third person. It is important to remember that the third person is there to fulfill a fantasy, not there to steal your partner.
Threesomes have proven baneful to many couples because of the unforeseen jealously. This is why most couples choose to have a threesome with an acquaintance � not a good friend. The ground rules set should include whether any future contact will take place and whether there will be more than one threesome if the first go is successful.
Limits in the Bedroom
 The discussion should include each individual's limits. Everyone has limits, and these should be made known during the discussion. Assuming you are meeting with a person you hardly know to arrange the threesome, it is important to inform the new partner of what is and is not okay in the bedroom.
This portion of the discussion should also include personal likes and dislikes, yet it need not be down to the detail. A broad overview of what is not liked and off limits will be okay. Should the initial meeting with the third be a lighthearted interview, it should not be difficult to discuss what should and shouldn't happen during the threesome. In fact, all parties will have a better time if the ground rules are set.
Sexual Health
Of course, the discussion with the prospective third should include sexual health and well being. Birth control (if needed) and safe sex should be included in the discussion. If any party has an STD or is HIV positive, it should definitely be mentioned. It is always better to be informed, particularly when acting out a fantasy. If the topic isn't brought up, feel free to ask the third person. While a threesome is hot, bringing an STD into the bedroom is not.
After the Meeting
You and your partner should come away from the meeting with the third person feeling confident. The third person should be willing to discuss all of the topics mentioned above and be considerate of everyone's wishes. Should this be the case, the three of you are on your way to having a great time!
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